CONNECTION.

Anita discovered something new about herself today: contrary to what she had believed her entire life, she is an introvert.

Anita is a chatty person who enjoys mingling and making new friends. She is cheerful, gregarious, and eager to express her opinions. She is constantly talking, saying "hi" here and "hello" there. Anita would define herself in these same terms. What specifically happened today that led her to believe that she is not an extrovert, then?

One of Anita's pals inquired about her preferred sexual orientation. Anita was caught aback and surprised; she resisted asking any questions about it. Her friends teased her and called her an introvert when she declined to comment on this issue. When she was by herself, she sat and pondered what had occurred earlier in the day. No wrong in choosing not to speak on such a subject, she reasoned to herself, but what surprised her was that her friends had classified her as an introvert. She was forced to acknowledge, "Yes, I am not comfortable discussing such a topic, and there is no harm in that." Her buddies did provide her with a chewable item. She sat thinking about how talkative she is and how when she is not babbling to her companions, she usually chatters.

We confide in our friends and discuss anything with them. There aren't any hiding places, secrets, or acting. They can see our true selves in us because they can see our true faces. Then why remained silent in front of her pal, Anita? Let's investigate.

Anita recognises her introversion. She has come to the realisation that she needs to be honest with her friends; if not them, then let her feelings, thoughts, and emotions out with someone. Someone had to have good listening skills. A patient listener won't make fun of her. Recognise her emotions, accurately translate her phrases, and understand her partially spoken sentences. Someone who would be kind, sympathetic, and patient with her, who would feel what she feels without passing judgment. Encourage her to be honest. Assure her that what she says doesn't need to be justified.

Keeping up with the world in this day of the internet is challenging, let alone for a friend who has empathy, time, and care to be aware of us. People in this fast-paced environment struggle to understand themselves, which makes caring for others difficult or impossible. I bet you will take someone for granted and not respect their presence in your life if they are always readily available at your disposal!

Despite having numerous acquaintances, Anita lacks true friends with whom she can confide. Anita never realised the value of forming enduring relationships since she was so focused on getting popular. To possess a lifelong companion, she can rely on during every difficult time. She thought about this for days, wondering why she couldn't express her desire to her friend.

She merely concluded that no one was near to her heart, as she never made an effort to develop a personal connection with anyone in the group. She feels her life has been a waste at the age of early thirty. She now believes that it's never too late to start a new friendship, but the only issue is that everyone in her group has a stronger bond with a few friends while she flitted from one flower to another. Yes, she has a lot of wonderful friends, but right now, every decent person she meets is too busy with their current responsibilities to start a new relationship!

Anita is establishing solid relationships by glancing out her window. She should look inside herself, her home, and her family, who are familiar with her from top to bottom. She has neglected her husband as well as her sister and cousins. She had these relationships all along, but she never thought to cultivate a lasting friendship with them since she always took them for granted.





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Analyse and Change

This blog is a continuation of my first blog. For better understanding please read my first blog followed by this latest blog. Thanks.

 Secondly one needs to sit and analyze everything in their life. Anything that one is not satisfied with that needs to be worked upon. One has to analyze why one is unhappy, how can one get happiness, making small changes and observing whether it is giving one positive result. There will be times when one will think no result is coming by but one should keep reminding oneself that slow and steady will eventually win- patience is the key.

A few times one's effort will be overlooked and frustration may creep in BUT NO does not be discouraged. On seeing continuous efforts that one is putting in will later comment or if one is lucky may also say a word of appreciation.

 Thirdly never instigate or start a fight but then it does not mean one will let others walk all over... Put one's foot down if one's self-respect is being challenged. Be choosy and selective of the battles one's fights. Do not jump into every opportunity to fight and defend. Have the patience to ignore less important and trivial matters.

 The only matter of importance should be shown respect and fought for. If one thinks that one's reply will add fuel to the fire hold one's words and do not lose control. Gradually with practice, one will learn the skills of the game. A game where fights with one's self not to lose control of himself. Patience and evaluation of the situation will come and life will change and change for the good. Before I end do not forget to post comments and share my blog. Please say how you liked my blog in the comment section. Least I can say now is everything done with purest of intention and a good heart will see you through all the battles of life. Thanks for reading.

The Wound

every now and then we get hurt and bruise our elbow or knee. It might bleed, it might even be painful but eventually, it gets healed in a few days. These are the wound of the body, the physical bruise.

Then there are emotional wounds which hurt the heart and with time it deepens and bruises the soul. Emotional wounds are caused when a loved one betrays or when we face unfaithfulness.

These Wounds are abstract. They are not seen but only the wounded can feel it... It slowly devours the spirit of once a young cheerful person. Once you are wounded you have got a friend for life. Like a best friend never to leave our side through the thick and thin. The old wound becomes renewed and get refreshed everytime new wound is attached. Life becomes miserable and the memories haunt and torture us making each day difficult to pass.

It's very difficult to heal the heart, soul, and spirit. Through sleepless nights to tear-stained pillows. Through pain and agony, we pass every night. Through heavy difficult breathing to silent tears gradually falling asleep tired and drained.

Life's enjoyment is gone. Licking the wound brings solace and these wounds become our sole companion. These memories haunt us slowly feeling the pain but when tears start dropping from our eyes what was once the pain and now we gradually start enjoying it and gives us relief and peace.

Will this pain relief ever has an ending or will it go down with us in the grave.?

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In Pursue

Females are an emotional lot of fools .. helpless ...wrenched souls ..at the mercy of their lovers...  That's how God created them.

Polls apart but bonded by Love.. for the females emotional, spiritual, mental bond of love ... and for males physical form of love.

Females want their emotional needs to be quenched. To fulfill their desires, if they chase them ..they don't know where it shall take them...

Unable to quench their thirst, they do not feel complete ... something is missing... it seems .. an emptiness that overpowers them... But then, slowly, they come to reality and take control of their inner being.

The woman in her is emotionally thirsty.. always buried in thought about how and when shall she feel complete.... always fighting a battle within her whether should she chase her desires or should she let them die.. deep inside her heart she knows these feelings shall evaporate ..after some time...only to condense and resurface much stronger.

Always in this conflict, she lives her life .. perfecting her various roles in life . .. And from time to time her feelings ebbing and pouring...

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To Heal

In order to be healed one needs to cleanse oneself of all the toxin within one's self. After searches n researches one gets a means to heal ones' self...

But what if one is trying to heal oneself and side by side is also getting wounded.... ?????

Fight It Back..

 Most people I've observed accept life with all of its challenges without resistance.  Without a struggle for their morals, their pleasure, or their principles. The majority of those I encounter have given up and silently accepted their sad lives. They don't consider how to solve their problems since they believe they have solved them or are incapable of finding a solution for their troubles. Though not physically, I sometimes get the impression that they lack the motivation to confront their issues or the person who is the root of their suffering.

Everything, in my opinion, has a cause and an effect. A reaction to the activity. First and first, I must modify myself because my part is the source of a reaction or some action is the source of my reaction. So I need to adjust my actions and reactions while waiting for the other person to change. So, if you want to live a happy life, you must make a change. Take some chances, take some risks for your happiness to triumph. You must go through some suffering to acquire some benefits and, more importantly, to find a solution to your difficulties.

It is unlikely that you will win on your first try. Yes, with some trial and error, you will undoubtedly achieve some positive effects in your life. You will undoubtedly get what you desire, and your struggle will come to an end.