RELATIONSHIP AND COMMUNICATION.

 

My mind is filled with a myriad of ideas as I make a mental note to get ready to write on this sensitive but enormous and contentious subject. Most aspects of what one has witnessed, the environment they grew up in, and their upbringing have an impact on how they approach their relationships, and life in general. A person will undoubtedly be affected by their family dynamics if they come from a chaotic home. He holds several misconceptions that he acquired from his early observations. His upcoming relationships will be impacted by the false beliefs he carries around. We develop a lot of relationships during our lives, yet some of them tragically end. Relationships that we are born into include those between parents and children, as well as those between siblings, cousins, uncles, and aunts. In these relationships we have no freedom to choose, we can choose whom we want to befriend and have the liberty to choose our spouse irrespective of whether it’s an arranged/love marriage.
Studies reveal that man cannot exist in isolation hence society was created. Every community has certain rules to observe and taboos to obey to live in peace and decorum, as well as with respect and love. Marriage was founded as a result of certain taboos. We will largely discuss the relationship between couples here.

The people we date and marry have a big impact on our lives. God's creation of the human being, which includes both man and woman, is incredibly challenging to understand. We need to understand the principles governing the body and mind to comprehend a man’s or woman's psychology. Depending on how many hormones are secreted, the endocrine system, or hormones, controls an individual.
A woman has emotional, creative, and romantic tendencies. A man, on the other hand, approaches life with more pragmatism. A man is domineering, egotistical, and difficult to satisfy. Man thinks with his head, or, to put it more colloquially, "between his legs," whilst a woman thinks with her heart. He thinks about sex constantly, and it dominates his inner thoughts. Since God designed them that way, neither we females nor they can change it. I should also point out that women occasionally exhibit timidity, whimsy, and stubbornness. And romance rules her head.

To put it simply the chemistry between a man and a woman is complex. The woman waits for her man to praise her, share his feelings with her, and be a part of her man’s life. The man does just the opposite. He will never admire her criticise her, and never be vocal about his feelings and emotions. Knowing these differences. It’s difficult to be on a common page for both of them. The conflicts of interest begin from here.
After cooking and doing her daily chores, a wife fantasizes that her husband will surprise her with a gift and be romantic because it's their wedding anniversary. But the husband, who has issues at work, returns home frustrated. He has no desire to think about an anniversary. He arrives home exhausted and hungry to find his wife's hopeful smile has turned into a frown. In this situation, men and women must communicate well. Both must put themselves in the other's shoes to understand how they must feel and what their day might be like.

Women have a preconceived notion that men are reluctant to communicate their emotions and lack the phrases to win women over. It is only an idea. The psychic talents of men are not like that. Men don't have time for trivial emotions. He merely desires to be laid down. He believes it is the right time to get laid when a wife adores and caresses her husband. However, the wife does it for her emotional intimacy; this build-up eventually progresses to the last stage of sharing a bed so that she can devote her entire self to her lover. They are both distinct in this way.

I have only so far talked about the physical side of a man and a woman's relationship. Let's now discuss the need to establish a relationship. The castle won't be constructed overnight. Building it is extremely painful and laborious. If a man works hard to earn his relationships. It is built by a woman with suffering, giving, and endurance. Any young couple's early marriage has numerous twists and turns. If each challenge makes the connection stronger, it will endure for a very long time. However, if the relationship thread becomes tangled up in trivial matters, it won't be able to withstand the test of time.

I'll use one as an illustration. This girl meets the male during a matchmaking event, and they immediately fall in love. Despite the arranged nature of the union, both parties had a deep love for one another. This boy needed marriage to satisfy his cravings. (As was previously said, the girl's love was similar to that of every other girl.) Starting a new marriage involves getting to know and exploring the other. They were saddled with the care of two children after a hasty pregnancy within four years of marriage. The in-laws did not allow their son to be in charge of the kids because of his youth.

The grandparents and the kids' mother shared full parental responsibilities for raising the kids. Although he had just recently become a father, he was still in no position to take care of responsibility. The wife and young toddlers suffered as a result of the father's unwise choices in friends. She started making concessions and sacrificing her needs for her spouse and children as a result of the responsibilities of raising her children. The wife and kids suffered because of the husband, who lost all family respect. For the in-laws, the daughter-in-law was a maid and a nanny to their grandchildren. She was not taken as their mother.

The young woman, as she matured, could now comprehend every member of the family. She survived by exercising patience and understanding. She never let her in-laws' opinions affect her parenting. She instilled in them straightforward yet profound virtues via perseverance, hard labour, love, and care. Her husband, who would never let her leave the house, was on one side, and her children were on the other. She made a patient, persevering effort to gain the respect and love of the family. nevertheless, in vain. She has her children's affection after ten years of suffering, devotion, and dedication, and they recognise and value the suffering their mother has endured.

As he gets older, her hubby is growing more relaxed. As her husband ages, he becomes more mellow over time. With time, he has come to understand that friendship belongs outside rather than inside. He now values her and thinks that the majority of his free time should be spent with the family. Ten years did not fly away in a split second. Every day was a new struggle and a trial. But with patience, she bore it, always thinking a day would come when she would enjoy the fruit of her endurance. She did not take the escapist route of aborting the relationship and walking away. She believes easy decisions are not the right or best solution to the problem. She made the tough decision to work on the relationship. It was because she loved her children and her husband dearly. Every time she saw them, she would melt, strengthening her to have more forbearance to stay and keep the family intact.
Today, her spouse and kids respect her efforts and are aware of every choice she makes. This woman successfully and calmly used self-defense while maintaining her dignity. She chose her words carefully. She never spoke more than was necessary. She never started a fight, but when someone provoked her, she understood how to respond with a couple of subtly worded comments.

Let's now discuss communication. Be succinct in your language; express yourself rather than in general terms. I always say that I can't understand what's going on in my head if we don't communicate. Nobody has a readable, understandable display monitor mounted on their forehead. You must verbally express yourself if you are irate, hungry, or unwell. It's crucial to choose your words carefully. Declare your intentions clearly and carry them through. And communication must indeed be honest.

Both verbal and nonverbal communication occurs. Use your eyes to communicate. Words cannot express what a look, a glance, or even a wink can. We frequently find ourselves speechless and unable to respond. When that happens, a hug or a firm handshake works as a reassuring sign that your support is there and you are aware of the situation.

Giving a response can't always be helpful, but silence is frequently more valuable than words. We develop this skill of nonverbal communication through practice. It's not always best to respond with a tit-for-tat. Silence doesn't necessarily indicate that you've lost it. It may also imply that you should not respond to their pointless speech.

No matter the topic, especially this one, I am by no means an expert. What I have seen and felt is what I have written about. Some of the insights I've seen have occurred in the neighbourhood, among my friends, or even within the family. I've come to understand that being understanding of one another's wants and difficulties can strengthen our connection. A partnership should have a lot more qualities, and these qualities can grow with time. Since it is impossible to cover everything, I have simply written what I know. On a personal note, I'd want to conclude by saying that all it takes to make a relationship work is to be a nice person; if you do that, everything else will fall into place like the parts of a jigsaw…